Where do I even start with wedding planning?

It’s been 4 months and 13 days since we got engaged. 4 months and 13 days to get used to a teeny tiny sparkly ring on my left hand, 4 months and 13 days of “no, no plans yet” and 4 months and 13 days of staring blankly at my wedding planner.

I always held off getting engaged because I didn’t want a long engagement and didn’t see the point in planning a wedding until we could afford one. 8 and a half years on the time came and what did I do about my quick wedding plans? I did sweet F A is what I did.

Sure 4 odd months might not be long for some people but for someone who scoffed at the idea of a long engagement and envisaged just cracking on in under a year I just dug my heels in, buried my head in the sand and did nothing. Nada. No Pinterest board, no googling, no date set.


But, now I am starting to think maybe I need to get my head in gear. I always fancied getting married in 2020 as we will have been together 10 years and it had a nice ring to it and as we’re adhering to cider season we’re looking at January or February. 11 months away. With zero in the planning process.

And now, gone are the “have you got a date” or “any plans” questions and incoming are the “what, January NEXT year” and “shouldn’t you get a move on” and “everyone is booked up 18 months/2 years in advance” and suddenly I am feeling the stress. I don’t think it’s self inflicted (but maybe not doing anything for a few months was) but 11 months is seeming awfully close now so it’s time to get cracking.


With that in mind I turn to you, to those of you who are married, engaged, have a pinterest board of your dream day or know EXACTLY what you want without so much as a whiff of a partner to get married to. Hell, any of you who just know how to throw a good party.

Hit me up with your tips, tricks, things to avoid and absolute musts. I want to know how you organised it, what you did, how much you spent and how you got over awkward family dynamics. I want the goss on your decor, your cake and when you sent your invites out. And if you had a non traditional winter wedding then all the better my friends.

I think we can do this with only a handful of minor breakdowns. Meybs.