10 Ways to Avoid the Post Wedding Blues
Wedding blues are real guys let me tell you. It is so easy to feel deflated when it’s all over, when months of planning have come to fruition and the day itself is over and done and everyone has gone home. It’s understandable, it’s something you’ve worked on for so long that you don’t know what to do with yourself afterward but also, it’s the realisation that room of people, of all your loved ones, friends and family will unlikely be in the same room again and it can be a mad downer.
I would say I haven’t had the wedding blues that bad but maybe that’s because a month later the UK went into lockdown and I had other things to focus on but when I got ill on the drive home from our mini moon and spent the next two weeks getting one cold after another I definitely had my low moments.
Here’s my best tips for avoiding the blues….
Go away for a night or a few days afterward - I mentioned this in our mini moon post but weddings are SO full on I think it’s vital to go somewhere just the two of you for a night afterward because you really don’t get to spend that much time together. It doesn’t have to be fancy, it doesn’t have to cost more than twenty quid in a travelodge but just somewhere that isn’t home so you have time together to digest and chat about the wedding.
Don’t go back to work too quickly - I had one day off work before our wedding and three days afterward and it just wasn’t enough. I knew it wasn’t going to be enough but I didn’t have enough annual leave to do anything different but if you can leave it a bit I recommend you do. There is nothing like going back to work to bring you back to reality with a bump.
Have your honeymoon booked - I consider the first holiday after your wedding to be your honeymoon FYI, even if it’s years later because lord knows you need to save cash after your wedding. But if you can have it booked already it’s a fab way of curing those blues because you have something set in stone to look forward to.
Have a family meal straight after - We did this after we came back from our mini moon and I really enjoyed it as a way of keeping the magic alive a bit longer. Your immediately family probably didn’t see much of you after the wedding or maybe even during it so have a meal, have a takeaway, get everyone back round and chat about it and how they enjoyed it.
Show your wedding photos off - I held off giving our nearest and dearest the password to our online gallery until I’d shown them the photos myself. We went to my Mum’s house the week after our photos came in and my Mum made food and my brother came round and we went through the photos on the big screen and it was a really fun way of reliving it all again.
Sit down and look at your cards and gifts together - We took our cards and presents away with us after the wedding and spent an evening reading them together, along with our guest book and it was lovely to see everyone’s well wishes and messages and made us feel hugely loved.
Plan some wedding crafts - I still haven’t got round to mine because lockdown but I have loads of crafty bits planned for the leftover wedding stuff which I am looking forward to getting round to doing. Whether it’s making your wedding album, framing your fav photos or making a memory box of all the bits of confetti or the spare favours you kept, it’s a great way of reliving it all over again.
Pop on your wedding playlist - I have played ours probably once a week at least since and it’s a sure fire way to make me happy. Save your playlist, preferably in order of how it went on the night if you can and stick it on full blast if you need a bit of cheering up or motivation.
Write your thank yous - Writing your thank yous takes AGES and is a task that will surely cure the blues because it’ll remind you how much hard work it all was! My friend told me when she got married last year that she wrote down the names of every card, present and gift as they opened them after her wedding so she’d remember who bought them what and I did the same and it was invaluable for writing our thank you cards.
Start planning your anniversary - well if you really can’t beat the blues, may as well plan something for your first anniversary!!!