One Month of Being Married | An Interview with my Husband
07.02.20
One month married already and it feels like absolutely years ago. Our photos are back, my dress has been cleaned, the final bills have been paid, the thank you cards have been written and my office is still full of things I need to get round to selling. And of course, the blog content is rife.
Questions to Gwennan;
1. What did you enjoy most and least about planning the wedding?
Putting all the little extras into practice was definitely my favourite part of planning. There were so many small touches like the table centres, the welcome packs in the cottages and the ‘meet the top’ table cards that I wanted to do and I really enjoyed creating them. I least enjoyed the overwhelm which was real a lot of the time. I just felt like I was getting nowhere for a lot of the time and I still had so much to do but actually, by the time January rolled round turns out I just work better to a deadline and I knuckled down and got shit done.
2. What were you most nervous for and excited about before the wedding?
I wasn’t really nervous for the majority of the planning process, but every time I really thought about a room full of our nearest and dearest I got a little tummy flip of excitement/anxiety. When it came to the days before I was actually most nervous on the evening of the pub quiz. I was just aware I didn’t feel 100% myself and I was scared of being quiz master and feeling sick or dizzy and not being able to escape it. Ironically though, the pub quiz was the bit I was most excited for in the build up. I was just really looking forward to having everyone there in a chilled environment and everyone having a go at the quiz I’d made.
3. What was your ONE favourite part of the weekend?
If I had to pick one single bit from the whole weekend I’d say my favourite bit was doing the sparker photos. It was freezing cold and Storm Ceira was beginning and I cannot stress how mental the whole situation was. We’d plucked our friends out from the party which was probably the only moment we had only people our age around us and the wind was howling, people were shivering and being blown away and we were just running. We only had 90 seconds to do the sparklers before they burnt out and we were just running up and down and back again up and down and up and down the steps and everyone was cheering us and we were all just laughing our heads off - it was fab.
4. Top three memories from the wedding?
Apart from the sparklers I’d say some of my best memories from the whole weekend were;
Saying the legal wording we needed to say at the ceremony. Jos was quite nervous I realised so I was holding his hands and I didn’t feel nervous at all, just aware it was a really small intimate moment with our family.
Walking into the main barn at Rosedew when my Uncle announced our entrance before we sat down for our meal. I really didn’t think I’d like all attention on me over the weekend but actually that bit was really nice. Everyone was clapping and cheering and whooping and it just felt a bit special having them all in one room for the first time.
One of my absolute favourite memories was one nobody captured as far as I know. We’d been dancing with our family and friends and my Mum had my baby niece and I had my big niece and my brother was dancing with us and then after a few songs, everyone else left the dancefloor and it was just me and my biggest niece on my hip dancing along. I think it was to Uptown Funk or maybe Lewis Capaldi and the lights were all blue and me and her were just dancing up and down on our own and it was something I hope I can bring to mind forever.
5. Anything you regret or would have done differently?
I’m going to do a proper blog post on this but there’s a few things I would have changed - mostly to do with memories or not making enough of the time. There’s nothing you can do time wise in your own wedding, you cannot physically be everywhere at the same time and you can’t talk to everyone but I wish I’d seen or done more, like the macarena and the Grease megamix I did and the lack of dancing I actually did with Jos.
6. Do you think anything changed since we got married?
This one has actually surprised me because I didn’t think anything would change after being together 10 years, and on the whole, it hasn’t. Our home life is exactly the same, I feel exactly the same and I am still saying “Rees, R double E S” when asked for my surname to sign for things at work. But one thing I have definitely noticed is I have become morbidly obsessed with Jos getting ill or dying. I have never thought I’d be happy if something happened to him don’t get me wrong but now the idea of him having an accident or becoming ill or not being here anymore makes me go cold to my core and it’s definitely only happened like that in the last 4 weeks.
Questions to Jos;
1. What did you enjoy most and least about planning the wedding?
I most liked the excitement of knowing that the wedding was getting closer. I actually enjoyed doing all the little things in the week leading up to the event like making up the bags of popcorn for the favours and small jobs like that. The angst was the thing I liked least (at this point he said “you were like a fucking she devil, make sure you write that”). Some times you’d do mad things like tidying and cleaning when you were stressed about a million wedding things and I’d try and encourage you to do something more productive and you’d look at me like I was insane.
2. What were you most nervous for and excited about before the wedding?
I wasn’t really nervous in the months before. I was a bit weirded out about speaking in front of our families and saying sickening things for the vows but there was no doubt in my mind I wanted to get married so on the whole everything was great. I was a little concerned something might go wrong like the catering was wrong on one of the days or something but other than that, no. Most excited for the ceremony - (can confirm, he kept saying this).
3. What was your ONE favourite part of the weekend?
Taking the photos with my Mum and Dad on the seafront. Apart from the fact it was biting cold it was really nice and it was nice to capture the day. We took a photo of all the family and my Mum had to photoshop herself in because she was the one who took it!
4. Top three memories from the wedding?
Doing the quiz on the Friday night. I did the comparing because you looked so nervous and like you really didn’t want to do it and I really didn’t want to do it but I’d had a couple of drinks so I feel like I was in the zone and doing you a big favour. (At this point, I asked if he could even remember it and he said “bits” so hard to see how this is a memory for him at all.)
Seeing you in your dress for the first time. Simon took some really nice photos of that and it makes me really happy.
The pie! Succulent, moist, just the right amount of crispiness in the pastry and mmmm the mash, silky smooth. Delicious. And the roast vegetables were to die for. Although I didn’t like that you didn’t eat much because you were nervous because it was SO good and you ate so little.
5. Anything you regret or would have done differently?
Probably would have drank less on the Friday night! And I would have made sure there was nothing to do or set up on the Friday night so we could have come back and just chilled after the ceremony not done chores. I’d have made you eat more! I think we should have made the dress code ‘formal’ because even though it went ok, I could see some people were dressed a lot smarter and some were a lot more casual and even though we didn’t care I think it would’ve been easier to just say one dress code. Maybe invested in better sparklers!!! And made sure Wales won…..
6. Do you think anything changed since we got married?
No unfortunately. I wanted you to be more loved up with your ice cold heart and no passion. I like seeing letters in the post saying Mrs Craddock, it was weird at the start but I think it’s pretty cool and I quite like it. And calling you my wife which is baller. I get to wear a ring now which makes me feel more grown up and I can be like “sorry ladies”. (At this point I asked him if he had many propositions and he said it wouldn’t even know if someone was hitting on him. I believe him.)
